step one: acceptance.
acceptance is not always easy.
the first step to a fresh start is acceptance.
of course this is always easier said than done, but accepting that the things in life are constantly changing is where it all begins. change is inevitable. sometimes it’s something we can’t control. it’s a normal part of life. so the question is; what are we going to do about it?
this could go two ways.
- choose to reject the fast moving pace of life.
- choose to accept change and move forward.
although crying about how sad life can be is soooooo much easier in the moment, choosing to accept change leads to greater things later on. be willing to see yourself grow. be willing to see yourself doing something new. acceptance is stepping outside of your comfort zone so dare yourself to step out.
my mindset wasn’t always like this.
speaking through my own experiences, accepting the idea of change was definitely the last thing on my mind. some days, it still is the last thing i want. it’s hard to wrap my head around it. one day, everything’s “normal” and the next, it’s an entirely different story. why do things change so quickly? why can’t i just turn back time? question after question, but the only answer is …”life,” that’s just the way it is. without acceptance, people tend to lose themselves. i lost myself… i was so focused on the past and what i could have done to change things, change outcomes and even change myself that i ended up losing myself in the process. i did everything i could to stop any sort of change in my life from happening, but the truth is… i couldn’t have done anything to prevent it. things change, people change and that’s just the way it is. change is inevitable.
it took me weeks to start believing in the idea that change can be positive. i couldn’t see it. i was so blinded by my past memories that i wasn’t able to see a positive future for myself. i needed help to learn how to accept change. i needed help to understand that sometimes, starting over means accepting that people are no longer the people they said they were… accepting that i am no longer the person i said i was.
through acceptance, i’m able to picture a positive future for myself. i’m able to think about things that i want for myself. i’m able to finally be selfish, even if it’s only for a small amount of time. where we are right now may not be where we thought we’d be or where we want to be, but it’s definitely where we’re supposed to be. it took me a long time to get to where i am right now and i know i’m still a work in progress. it’ll definitely take some time to grow, but as cliché as it sounds, time heals everything. just trust the process.
my goal is to make myself whole again. through acceptance, i know i’m making some form of progress.
i’m leaving you with a quote from a cute little book called, milk and honey by rupi kaur.
all you own is yourself.
let it go
let it leave
let it happen
in this world
was promised or
belonged to you
all you own in yourself – rupi kaur
stay tuned for step two: stepping outside of your comfort zone.
thanks for coming along this journey with me. i’m excited to see where life takes us.
till then, don’t forget to trust the process.